Celebration of Life

Moving beyond my pain and celebrating life.

Tuesday, May 6, 2008

May = Memories

As Mother's Day approaches I can't help but think about my own dear Mother who passed on last September. I miss her everyday but most of all I draw from her strength which she consistently displayed.

Mother did not have an easy life. She grew up on a farm in Nebraska. Her older brothers went off to war and she had to go out into the field and work as a man at a very young age. Mother never whined nor complained about hard work and did not tolerate it with her children. No matter how hard life became for me, Mother always had an encouraging word that would urge me to go on. I got my strength from Mother.

I can only imagine the pain of losing a child or a grandchild but Mother experienced both. To this day, I can remember the strength and compassion that Mother showed me when Leo died as she was about my age when Dad died. Sometimes when I am sad, I can still hear Mother's words of encouragement in my ear. Yes Mother, I am still listening.

Me, Rubye Jean, Ellie, Beckie, Mother

Our sister Beckie was born on Mother's Day. This picture was taken on Mother's Day, 1990 in Sheridan, Wyoming. Grandpa Harold had passed and we were all there for his funeral and for Ellie's graduation from college. We all went to the nearby park and just had a good time together. That was the last time I saw Beckie as she and her three boys were murdered that November.

This is the picture of Ellie, Rubye Jean and I after Mother's funeral. Birth made us sisters, life made us friends. I admire both of my sisters for they have been my strength in my hard times and my joy all of the time. Each have had their share of 'life problems' but they keep on going with excellent attitudes.

I only hope that I can be a pillar of strength for those who love me and the others that my life path comes in contact with.


  • At May 6, 2008 at 2:35 PM , Blogger Velvet Ginger (Rubye Jean) said...

    Absolutley lovely, every word is so true.
    This Mother's Day is extremly hard for me too.
    Wtih Tears & Smiles,
    I Love you Jo.

  • At May 6, 2008 at 4:31 PM , Blogger Jeni said...

    Beautiful post. It's amazing too how much more truth one finds in the things our mother's told us too over the years we had with them.

  • At May 6, 2008 at 5:51 PM , Blogger A.Bananna said...

    beautiful aunt jo. I love you!

  • At May 6, 2008 at 6:41 PM , Blogger Lynetta said...

    Beautiful post, Aunt JoJo! I am so blessed to have such terrific aunts and an incomparably wonderful grandmother. May God continue to grant you peace and comfort through so many warm memories. Love you!

  • At May 6, 2008 at 7:10 PM , Blogger david mcmahon said...

    Sorry I've been AWOL for so long - blame it on the new job.

    You pass on the strength thath your mother gave you. Beautiful post, as always

  • At May 6, 2008 at 7:24 PM , Blogger CrazyCath said...

    What a wonderful testament to the people you love. One or two shocks in there too. I can't imagine how you coped with the losses you have, but love your comment "Birth made us sisters, life made us friends."

    Brilliant post.

  • At May 6, 2008 at 7:29 PM , Blogger Ms. Creek said...

    This is really a special post, jolene. Thank you...I love you very much!

  • At May 7, 2008 at 9:19 AM , Blogger A.Bananna said...

    I really love this post! I remember that day at the park! Jack and Tyrone said that they were bestest buddys! I remember all the laughter that day too! thank you for that memory! I love you! :)

  • At May 7, 2008 at 9:47 AM , Blogger Velvet Ginger (Rubye Jean) said...

    Great memeories...we were fortunate to have had all of them in our lives. I am fortunate to have had my children, my 2 sisters, and ALL my neices and nephews, and loving parents & grandparents to set the example for us!

  • At May 7, 2008 at 1:37 PM , Blogger M&M FAMILY said...

    Awesome awesome awesome ! your a awesome woman im glad i married your nephew.

  • At May 8, 2008 at 3:08 AM , Blogger Maggie May said...

    Came over from David's.
    Beautiful post about your Mum. mother's day brings back the memories. I sometimes buy a little plant in her memory,
    Shocking news about sister & boys.How DO you get over something like that?

  • At May 8, 2008 at 6:22 AM , Blogger Celebration of Life said...

    Rubye Jean: You get your incredible strength from Mother also. You are a strong woman and I admire and love you very much!

    Jeni: Yes, I remember saying when I was a teen, "I will never be like my mother" but now I find myself doing and saying the samethings!

    AJ: That day in the park will always be burned in my memory.

    Lynetta: Thank you and the same to you! I love you and your family very much. You are a very good mother!

    David: Thank you for your kind words and thank you for giving me "Post of the Day", again. ;o)

    crazycath: Thanks for your kind words. My two sisters, Rubye Jean and Ellie are very special women in my life. I can't imagine life without them!

    Ellie: I love you very much too!
    Thanks for always being there for me!

    Melissa: I'm so glad that Monte found you! You are an awesome woman yourself!

    Maggie May: Thanks for stopping by! One NEVER really gets over 'it'. You just have to draw strength from each other and try to make a difference. I went into the field of Victim Services in order to help me understand the process then to make a difference. In that, I don't have a 'job', I have a life work.

    Family and Friends: Thank you for your comments, support and love. Rallying around each other in hard times is what it is all about!


  • At May 8, 2008 at 8:09 AM , Blogger Angel... said...

    What a lovely post Jo...and lovely pictures you family is great..love you guys

  • At May 8, 2008 at 8:48 AM , Blogger Celebration of Life said...

    Angel: Thanks for stopping by! Yes, most of us are a great bunch! Welcome to our world! ;o)

  • At May 8, 2008 at 9:15 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

    (hugs) Jo,
    May has difficult memories for me, not only because of Mother's Day, but because my Mom passed on in May. I like to remember all the good things, there are lots of happy memories.

    I suspected Ellie was the wacky child. Look at her hanging upside down!

  • At May 8, 2008 at 10:13 AM , Blogger Celebration of Life said...

    Chewy: She was the only one limber enough to hang upside down! LOL

  • At May 8, 2008 at 12:29 PM , Blogger A.Bananna said...

    hey congrats on potd!(post of the day) I was hoping that he would pick you! :) I knew he would! Have a great weekend! I love you!

  • At May 9, 2008 at 10:25 PM , Blogger Velvet Ginger (Rubye Jean) said...

    I love you Jo Jo. Happy Mother's Day! I am proud to be your sister!
    And remember...beteer t obe a fitch...than a _itch.

  • At May 10, 2008 at 7:18 PM , Blogger Velvet Ginger (Rubye Jean) said...

    Happy Mother's Day Sweet Jo Jo!
    Love you (better to be a fitchafoo)

  • At May 10, 2008 at 9:34 PM , Blogger Ms. Creek said...

    happy mothers day jo jo!

  • At May 16, 2008 at 1:40 PM , Blogger San said...

    A beautiful, strong mother who passed on her strength to you and your sisters. But where did Ms. Creek get her ability to hang upside down?


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